Friday, April 24, 2015

Suicide Has Claimed Another Victim

Suicide has claimed another victim today. 

I say that because they are victims. Victims of circumstance, victims of heartache and hopelessness. Victims of pain and anxiety. Victims of depression and defeat. There is no discrimination, it affects the rich, the poor, the black, the white, the famous and the unknown.

In the last 2 years, I personally know of 4 people that have taken their own lives. Most for reasons unknown. Leaving behind friends and family to question everything they knew of their loved ones. I have 2 friends that lost their husbands to suicide. My niece lost a love to suicide. A young woman that I knew in ministry circles committed suicide just a few weeks ago.

Suicide is on the increase for sure. I didn't know of anyone taking their own lives during my childhood or young adult life. My uncle committed suicide in the nineties and at that time, the shock was overwhelming. Today, unfortunately it is reported much more often. I have heard over the last year that suicide is not only an answer to health problems or depression but financial reasons as well. I cannot even fathom taking my own life for any reason, much less money.

Why is suicide the only way out for a lot of people?  How do we get to the point where suicide is the answer? How do we get to a place in our lives where our pain is more important than those we leave behind? When does death become more appealing than life? I wish I understood that dark place but to be honest, I cannot even go there. So here I am, trying to make sense of it all. Seeking answers for those left behind hurting and confused.

I am listing some great articles and websites for us all to be aware of, to read and to have handy in order to make a difference. 

I guess for now we can all do better at being a friend, a lover, a support system or a kind ear.

Please, if your life gets to the point where it doesn't seem like living, seek help. Seek a friend, a family member, a pastor, a counselor or a doctor. Call the suicide helpline tel:1-800-273-TALK.

Here are the links:

For some great tips Get Help Online.
For general understanding Suicide FAQ
Myths and Warning Signs Prevention and guide

Whoever is reading this or happens upon this know that your life is valuable, you are loved and there is always hope....

Monday, April 20, 2015

Happy Birthday Precious Chloe

You would be 6 years old now. 

6 years ago I remembering walking into the NICU where you literally took my breath away. 

So tiny, so fragile. You were hooked up to monitors and machines. You were wrapped in a bandage bigger than you holding your omphalocele in place. Your feet were long and so cute. Your hair dark and plenty. Your skin glistened. I cried as soon as I saw you. Your papa and I were in awe of you. 

I never knew I could love someone so much that I had just met. I guess technically we met months before as we talked often at your mommys belly. 

Although the tubes and machines scared me, I saw you as a perfect miracle. Deep down I think I knew you wouldn't be with us long. But I hoped, and prayed. I often hear people say their babies and grandchildren are blessings. That God is so good to them. That God has given them favor or good health. I hear them say God answered our prayers. My mind wonders at times, why were ours not answered? It hurts when people say that they are truly blessed as if we weren't. 

I was blessed by you. I am blessed by you and I still lose my breath thinking of you. 

I won't be attending your kindergarten graduation or sewing you a dress. 
I won't be buying you a birthday cake or sneaking you a puppy. 
I won't be pushing you in a swing or chasing you around a park. 
I won't be watching you nap or eating a cookie. 
I won't be seeing you grow. 

For you are forever 7 days old. 

Missing you more than anyone could ever understand. 

Friday, March 13, 2015

Depression, it's real.

Watching someone you love suffer is brutal.

I have seen many people I love suffer with severe depression. Not just sad days, but life altering, debilitating depression. Overwhelming sadness, unworthiness and fatigue. It's real and it steals the life out of you. Thankfully I personally have only had moments of despair. I fight anxiety but nothing like severe "clinical" depression. It's heartbreaking not being able to fix it. 

So I searched the web for answers. I searched for tools, for reasoning, for roots and for hope. 

This is the summary of what I found. So if you or someone you know needs help, hopefully you will find some here. 

KEEP A ROUTINE.  If you’re depressed, you need a routine and psychiatrists agree. Get up at the same time, do chores at the same time, eat at the same time. Keep up with your responsibilities at home and work. 
SET PERSONAL GOALS. Decide to do something new. Decide on a hobby. Call a friend. Read a book. Journal your thoughts and dreams. 

EXERCISE.  It temporarily boosts feel-good chemicals called endorphins. Exercise has long term healthy effects in all aspects of your life. We aren't talking a marathon here. A simple walk, a dance, a bike ride.
EAT HEALTHY.  There is no magic diet to cure depression however, clean eating is proven to boost your metabolism, your energy, your mood and your overall health. No chemicals, and most processed, packaged and fast food has chemicals. Soda is a chemical. No sodas! Eat green, eat veggies, fruits, salmons, omega 3's, nuts, seeds and lean meats.

GET ENOUGH SLEEP. Depression can make it hard to sleep but at the same time too much time in bed will paralyze you. 8 hours for health. Go to bed at the same time each night, cut out naps and don't fall asleep to TV.

CHALLENGE EACH THOUGHT. In your fight against depression it's easy to let negativity control your day. Examine every thought. Seek the good and the positive in each situation. It's a mental fight. It's a challenge to NOT give in to worse case scenarios.

MAKE SURE you have a support system in place. Surround yourself with happy people, encouraging friends and non judgmental family members. 
IF YOU EVER FEEL OUT OF CONTROL call for help. Call a doctor, a counselor, a pastor, a friend. If ever suicide crosses your mind, seek immediate help. 1-800-273-TALK.
Click here to get help!

And last but never least ALWAYS REMEMBER that God created you, Jesus saved you and the Holy Spirit will comfort you. 
Faith crushes fear. Joy comes in he morning & peace that passes understanding can be yours. 

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

Long Time Coming

Well it has been a long time. 

I had considered deleting my blog due to lack of interest. 
To be honest my lack of time and effort into this project had me lagging in posts.  

I changed my mind. 

I believe I had the wrong mindset.

 The idea to have followers and people interested in something I have to say is pretty exciting but I found myself trying to find things "interesting enough" for others to be drawn to. 

Now it is time to refocus. 

I have been on a health journey, a spiritual journey and a life journey that I intend to share realistically to maybe bless or help someone else. 

My life's journey is one of happiness, grief, anxiety, excitement and just plain living.

I hope you will stick with me as I figure out how to share finding sunshine in life's precious moments.  

Thursday, September 11, 2014

The Wonders Of Water

The wonders of water and why we should be drinking plenty of it! 

Here are the benefits (aside from the cure for thirst):
  • Water Flushes out Toxins
I don't know about you but I don't want any toxins hanging around. Toxins come from chemicals, the air and food that we consume. Toxins cause inflammation, cancers, insomnia, headaches, fatigue, difficulty concentrating, acne, gas, heartburn and bloating. Toxins even promote those dark circles under your eyes!
  • Water Aids in weight loss 
The diets I have been on suggest drinking hall your body weight in ounces. For example, if you weigh 200 pounds, you would drink 100 ounces a day to aid your weight loss. Water boosts metabolism. Dehydration is also often mistaken for hunger. If you feel hungry, and have recently eaten, try water first. 
  • Water Aids Digestion
Water flushes waste and breaks down food we eat. If you are dehydrated the large intestine soaks up he water from your food waste and causes hard stools. Since your waste is traveling from your stomach to intestines to colon, we need to give it some assistance. Lubricate those organs! 
  • Water Hydrates your skin, thus helping your complexion
Dehydration causes dryness in your skin. Water replenishes skin cells. That increases elasticity reducing wrinkles! 
  • Water Prevents Cramps and Sprains
Dehydration causes muscle fatigue. Water lubricates your joints, relieves stiffness and stabilizes circulation. 
  • Water Increases energy 
Water increases alertness, concentration and energy. Dehydration keeps us from moving, exercising and staying focused so grab some water today! 

A lot of people don't like to drink water, or cannot seem to sip on water. The reasons are taste or lack of. Add some lemon or lime to boost the flavor. Instead of sipping try downing a glass of water every hour. Try different ways that work for you! You will be amazed at how different you feel when you commit to daily hydration. Since half our body is made up of water every system in it depends on it. 

Stay hydrated friends!